Table Talk #27: The Value of the Table

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If you’re following me on Instagram, you know that I have a big weekend ahead with my eldest daughter. I’ve been gearing up for this transition into adolesence and doing as much research as possible. Two of my main sources that helped me prepare for this weekend are:

  1. Gail Anderson on Periscope/YouTube. Her Mentoring Moments for Moms are always solid gold. She was so gracious to personally respond to my email questions and give me a list of lots of resources to help prepare me for this transition of parenting adolescents.
  2. Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Girl by Dannah Gresh (author of the Secret Keeper Girl series). This book had everything I needed to get me prepared for this weekend. It’s light and upbeat, concise and practical. I highly recommend it! And for all the boy moms, she’s got Six Ways to Keep the “Good” in Your Boy. I haven’t read it, but if it’s along the lines of the girl equivalent, I’m sure it’s going to be helpful.

A TABLE

Today’s Table Talk is about, well, tables. A table is a staple in any home. It’s an instant people magnet (my community group gathers at the table without any prompting, but they wait for an invitation to sit in the living room).

I chose the name The Mentor’s Table, because the word table naturally evokes a sense of security and fellowship. And it’s no wonder, considering the statistics of families who eat together at the table at least five times a week. On takebackthefamily.org (and many other sites), for your children, the benefits of eating together are hard to ignore:

*Less stress 

*Better grades 

*Less likely to smoke, drink, do drugs, develop an eating disorder or struggle with obesity

GATHERING AROUND A TABLE IS LITERALLY LIFE CHANGING.

A PODCAST

I recently listened to The Splendid Table podcast #629 with Pableaux Johnson. Pableaux is a photographer in New Orleans who has taken the tradition of red beans on Monday to a whole new level. Every Monday night he opens his home to family and friends and serves a simple meal of red beans and rice (He even shares his recipe). Friends and family show up with a bottle of wine or their favorite beverage,

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Build Your Skill Set

Why you should try learning a new skill instead of staying reliant on technologyI recently listened to a Ted Talk about millennials and their desire to be taught how to be independent and empowered. One extreme example in how far some had strayed from independence (or the speaker would argue she was never taught otherwise because of parents who enabled her) focused on a college-age girl who needed a stamp. Whenever she needed a stamp, she would call her mom, and her mom would then mail it to her!

While I find this appalling on so many levels, if I’m being honest, I found a trace of myself in this story. In this age of technology, what we want or need is generally immediately available at our fingertips or can be delivered on our doorstep in less than 48 hours. When we have a question, we don’t have to go anywhere to get an answer, we just turn to our smart phones. When we need to see how something is done, we YouTube it. There is no immediate need for us to better ourselves by learning a new skill because we can just find a bandaid fix that takes care of our need without any real thought on our part going into it.

Stop relying on band-aid fixes. Learn how to do it yourself.FATAL FLAW

The fatal flaw that this system contains is that we’re
not learning and bettering ourselves. If the problem comes up again, we’ll just YouTube it again. We’re not learning anything. Just like if the aforementioned girl needs a stamp again, she’ll just call her mom. She won’t learn where her closest post office is. She won’t research a list of stores that also sell stamps that she could buy when she’s there already buying something else. She’ll never know that she can print postage online and not even have to leave her home (or wait for her mom’s stamp to arrive).

What skill are you purposely not learning because you’ve reasoned that you don’t

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