Thank you so much for joining us at The Mentor’s Table. Mother’s Day is just a few days away, and since this site is designed to encourage, empower, and connect with women who want to do life better–spirit, soul, and body–thementorstable.com is a great “gift” to share with a special mama in your life. Take them to the site to get signed up for these LIVE mentoring moments, and then give them the numbers of your favorite Table Talks, so they can go through and listen and be encouraged right away.
It’s official! Thursday is our new Table Talk day. Mark your calendars, and be sure to join us LIVE.
If you’re following me on Instagram, you know that I have a big weekend ahead with my eldest daughter. I’ve been gearing up for this transition into adolesence and doing as much research as possible. Two of my main sources that helped me prepare for this weekend are:
- Gail Anderson on Periscope/YouTube. Her Mentoring Moments for Moms are always solid gold. She was so gracious to personally respond to my email questions and give me a list of lots of resources to help prepare me for this transition of parenting adolescents.
- Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Girl by Dannah Gresh (author of the Secret Keeper Girl series). This book had everything I needed to get me prepared for this weekend. It’s light and upbeat, concise and practical. I highly recommend it! And for all the boy moms, she’s got Six Ways to Keep the “Good” in Your Boy. I haven’t read it, but if it’s along the lines of the girl equivalent, I’m sure it’s going to be helpful.
Today’s Table Talk is about, well, tables. A table is a staple in any home. It’s an instant people magnet (my community group gathers at the table without any prompting, but they wait for an invitation to sit in the living room).
I chose the name The Mentor’s Table, because the word table naturally evokes a sense of security and fellowship. And it’s no wonder, considering the statistics of families who eat together at the table at least five times a week. On takebackthefamily.org (and many other sites), for your children, the benefits of eating together are hard to ignore:
*Less likely to smoke, drink, do drugs, develop an eating disorder or struggle with obesity
GATHERING AROUND A TABLE IS LITERALLY LIFE CHANGING.
I recently listened to The Splendid Table podcast #629 with Pableaux Johnson. Pableaux is a photographer in New Orleans who has taken the tradition of red beans on Monday to a whole new level. Every Monday night he opens his home to family and friends and serves a simple meal of red beans and rice (He even shares his recipe). Friends and family show up with a bottle of wine or their favorite beverage,and they gather around his grandmother’s old table, not the fancy dining table. He plops a roll of paper towels in the middle of the table, and everyone serves themselves. And if the party gets too big, he simply follows the rule that you make more rice, and make family eat last.
Here’s what I love most about this. When he sees someone he hasn’t seen for a while or connects with a new friend, he doesn’t have to throw out the generic, “Let’s get together sometime,” which we all know is most likely NOT going to happen. Instead he says, “What are you doing this Monday?” It’s a set time, set place, nothing fancy “It’s supper, not a dinner party.” And it’s generally one big conversation among all twelve people. What a beautiful picture of the power of a table.
Lisa Bevere teaches that you need to be intentional to make sure life happens around the table. That only happens when . . .
A. There’s a table in your home. (And most of us have already made sure of this.)
B. Eating dinner as a family is a priority.
And I love that Pableaux takes it one step further–you open your door and invite other people to eat around the table with you on a regular basis.
It ties perfectly into the promise that “those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed” (Proverbs 11:25). Isn’t that a beautiful promise to live by?
Since we’re moving to a smaller space, I’m gearing up to sell our HEAVY chunky table and buy something more sleek and well worn. I’ll be frequenting our local ReStore until I find the right one. And when I do, oh, how I wish that table could talk and tell me the conversations that have already happened around it. A table is such a vital piece in an inviting home.
A table is an open invitation to encourage conversation and connection in your home.
While a table is powerful enough to change the lives of members of your family, it can also be the catalyst to change your community.
I want to open up an invitation to our table in a similar fashion as Pableaux has done. Have you tried something similar? What did you serve? What did you find works best. I want to hear from you! Comment below.
***Next week I’ve got another update to share with you about moving–this was so unexpected. I can’t wait to share it with you. Be sure to join me here next Thursday at 2:30. See you at the table.